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When You Discount Yourself, You Discount Me

You’ve probably met someone like this. You’re in a class, for example, and get an A on a very hard class. The smartest person in the class, who happens to be someone you really can’t stand, says, “Well, it wasn’t all that hard a test. I wouldn’t have been able to do so well on it if it had really been hard.” This person is not being egotistical. She really believes that she couldn’t have done well on the test unless it were an easy test. She is genuinely discounting her skills and knowledge.

But she’s also discounting your skill and ability.

October 4, 2007

Focus on Change: Girlfriend Cashes $100,000 Check from Cheating Boyfriend

This from the New York Post:

“A hard-partying Wall Street trader and his ex-girlfriend are in court over an allegedly broken $100,000 promise to keep on the straight and narrow.”

According to disgruntled, but wealthier, girlfriend Elisa Kwon, her boyfriend offered more than a promise not to commit moral turpitude (depravity). Greg Calvino handed Kwon a check for $100,000 and instructed her to cash it is he used drugs, stayed out late, and/or patronized strippers or prostitutes.

What were these two thinking?

October 3, 2007

Carnival of Small Business Issues: October 2, 2007

The aggregation of posts in this carnival submitted by the excellent bloggers involved in the small business community offer a myriad of approaches and solutions to those issues.

October 2, 2007

Could a Wellness Program Keep Your Company Healthy?

One of the problems with talking about “health care” is that most people think of it only as a way of treating sick people. Health insurance and prescription plans are indispensable, of course, but have you thought about helping your employees stay well, to cut down on health problems in the future? This is not only good for your bottom line, but it’s good for your employees and your relationship with them. ‘Wellness plan’ is a broad term, but here are some opportunities you might explore:

October 2, 2007

Money is Time: What’s Your Time Worth?

You probably think I just said, “Time is money,” but what I actually said was, “money is time.” They amount to the same thing, really, in some ways. But when you really stop to analyze the idea that money is time, wow. What a concept.

October 1, 2007

Going Back to the Well (Using What Works for You): Music Hath Charms to Sooth

How much do you listen to music? Do you listen more or less than you did when you were younger? Do you enjoy music? Do you have a favorite singer, a favorite group, a favorite song?

Many of us, when we were in college, listened to music to study because it “helped us concentrate.” But somewhere after college, a lot of us stopped listening so much. Maybe in the car. Maybe not. We don’t spend as much time with music on because we are too busy doing other things.

Why not dip back into that well?

September 28, 2007

Human Beings vs. Human Doings

by David B. Bohl Have you gotten caught up in “doing” instead of “being?” It’s easy to “do” in modern-day America, where we’re constantly bombarded

September 27, 2007

Life Coaches Blog Column: The Science of Happiness — Writing Your Own Formula for Happiness

The term “science of happiness” implies there is a formula and that you can follow a scientific method of discovery to determine what makes you happy. The formula for “happy” for each of us is different because there are so many factors that contribute to individual happiness.

September 27, 2007

Luck: Helping Each Other and Paying it Forward

An ancient Greek named Menander said, “If we always helped each other, no one would need luck.” Actually, he probably wasn’t all that ancient when he said that, but he was a Greek, and he did live a very, very long time ago, and he was a very wise man.

I want to make a digression on luck. Some people think that other people are “really lucky” because they are able to achieve things they want to accomplish, and reach their dreams. The people considered lucky would probably respond that a lot of hard work went into that luck. That’s very true, but I think that the idea of helping each other also comes into play.

September 26, 2007

What Are You Complaining About?

People often tell us “don’t complain, you’re lucky,”or say, in a derogatory tone, “What you are complaining about?”

Obviously, we’re complaining because things are not the way we want them to be. I think it’s important to pay attention to what we’re complaining about, and why, because what we’re complaining about tells us more about who we are, what we want and what we need to do than almost anything else in our lives.

September 25, 2007

The Science of Happiness

Writing Your Own Formula for Happiness by David B. Bohl The term “science of happiness” implies there is a formula and that you can follow

September 23, 2007

Interesting LA Times Post About Coaches

From the LA Times: Need Help Parenting? OK, Just Hire a Coach: Britney Spears has a County court commissioner’s order to get a parenting coach

September 23, 2007

Take a Vacation – Whether You Think You Need It or Not

One of the overriding characteristics I’ve noticed in stressed-out, overworked, Type-A personalities is that they tend not to take time off. Trust me – I speak from personal experience!

If they do take vacations, it’s a “working vacation,” and it’s seldom for more than a few days.

Recently The New Yorker ran a cartoon of two people on a beach.

September 21, 2007

A Daily Reminder for Us All: We Are Products of Our Choices

We all make choices, every day. Millions of choices, probably, every week, if you count things like which shoe to put on first and whether to drink water or cola.

Choice, after choice, after choice.

They add up and become who we are. And who we are influences new choices, which contribute to who we will be in the future, which influences new choices…

September 20, 2007

Personal Development List Thanks

I’d like to thank the following bloggers for disseminating Priscilla Palmer’s Outstanding Personal Development List (of which I’m recognized):

September 19, 2007

Tools for Productivity: Is Keeping a Schedule Becoming Old School?

Some would have you believe that maintaining a calendar is becoming a thing of the past. They think that this strategy allows increased and enhanced productivity. Why? Because they feel that it is invigorating and empowering not to be tied to any set agenda and timetable.

If you’ve found that you need to keep a schedule, and if you’re like me – someone who continuously assesses, monitors, modifies, and adapts my approach and strategies, please read on.

September 19, 2007

You Can’t Get There from Here – Why Not?

If you’ve ever been told, “You can’t get there from here,” you may have thought that was a ridiculous thing to say. Of course you can. You can get anywhere from anywhere.

In the physical world.

But in the world of the mind, not so much sometimes. In seeking balance, happiness, and fulfillment, for instance, we often can’t go from the 80-hour work week to a reasonable, sane and balanced life, because those two worlds don’t exist on the same plane. We have to start making smaller changes, cutting back and doing more balanced, fulfilling, real things.

September 18, 2007

My Guest Appearance on ‘Money Sense’ Radio Show

I’ll be Karen Ellenbecker’s guest on her weekly educational non-traditional investment radio program titled Money Sense.

My guest spot on Money Sense can be heard in the greater Milwaukee metro area this Sunday, September 16th, from 12:00 Noon to 1:00 PM CST.

Listen live via the Web at: (10:00 AM PST, 11:00 AM MST, 12:00 Noon CST, 1:00 PM EST)

September 14, 2007

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DAVID B. BOHL

Relinquishee, Adoptee, MPE
Author, Speaker.
Person in long-term recovery.