False Gratitude
I was thinking about the movie The Graduate with Dustin Hoffman, where Hoffman’s young character, Benjamin, gets some advice about career upon his graduation (“One
November 23, 2021
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Guest Post for National Adoption Awareness Month:
Understanding Addiction in Adoptive Families
I had the honor of contributing a guest post t0 the National Adoption Awareness Month (NAAM) discussion at Amber Moore Jimerson‘s blog We are What
November 8, 2021
The Power of Love and Connection
All you need is love, as the famous song has it. It’s a happy song, easy to sing under your breath and its message doesn’t
November 5, 2021
Double Identity, Double Heartache
One of the heartaches of being a relinquished person is that our identity is often fragmented, or at least in need of repair. As a
October 13, 2021
How to Talk to Your Relinquishee
We may not born into this world with trauma (though some do experience trauma in-utero). Yet we are born wired for the world and for
August 27, 2021
You are Powerful
If you’re like me, you might be a little sick of motivational slogans along the lines of “If You Can Dream It, You Can Make
July 29, 2021
Double-Whammy, Double Resilience?
One of the copouts of having gone through trauma is that you often hear that adage about what doesn’t kill you… makes you stronger. And
July 21, 2021
Wisconsin Adoption and Permanency Support (WISAPS) – Advisory Board Appointment and Article
I am honored to report that I have been appointed to the Advisory Board of Wisconsin Adoption and Permanency Support (WISAPS)
June 30, 2021
Choosing Your Audience
I have been open about my story with my loved ones, as well as with people I’ve never met, like my audiences, or people who’ve
June 30, 2021
David B. Bohl – Adoption & Addiction: Podcast Interview with Jigsaw Queensland
Jigsaw Queensland|6/16/2021 In the second episode of our two-part adoption and addiction series, Jane speaks to David Bohl about the relationship between adoption and addiction.
June 16, 2021
Relinquishment: Another Name for Betrayal
Imagine losing everything that you knew and needed to survive. Imagine losing smell, touch, sound, taste, and sensation that suggested to you that you are
June 8, 2021
Our Beginnings, Our Trauma
Recent coverage of a residential school mass grave has shaken up people around the world. Two-hundred-and-fifteen children’s bodies have been found in British Columbia, Canada—children
June 2, 2021
Adoption and Addiction Radio Broadcast – Sunday, May 23rd, 2021 – 6:30 pm EST, 3:30 pm PST
UPDATE: Listen to a replay of the broadcast here. Please join me and Pat O’Brien, Executive Director of the Adoptive and Foster Family Coalition of
May 21, 2021
Relationships are Hard – yet Totally Worth It!
The other day I saw a quote from Dr. Tanja Windegger about CPTSD that said “after prolonged interpersonal trauma, you are even suspicious about support
May 19, 2021
I will be presenting at the 32nd Annual New York State Foster Care and Adoption Conference
On Friday, May 21st, at 12:00 pm EST, 11:00 am CST, 9:00 am PST, I will be presenting at the 32nd Annual New York State
May 12, 2021
The Theater of Adoption
What does it mean to belong? Who are your people? Who do you relate to? What is family? Those kinds of questions are just some
May 12, 2021
The Intersection of Adoption and Addiction – Adoptive and Foster Family Coalition if New York Conference
I am honored to be presenting The Intersection of Adoption and Addiction at the Adoption and Foster Family Coalition of New York (AFFCNY) conference later
May 3, 2021
The Miracle Cure: The Intersection of Relinquishment and Addiction
Living the way I lived, I was bound to implode one way or another. Being in this constant conflict with myself and having a perpetual
March 30, 2021
Finding Reality, Finding Self: The Intersection of Relinquishment and Addiction
I used to say that Reality is my Higher Power. Higher Power is a 12-step-program concept that says you have to believe in something other
March 24, 2021
Adoptee Paths to Recovery Virtual Support Meetings
Adoptee Paths to Recovery Support Meetings are non-denominational and based on the philosophy that adoptees experiencing any type of addiction (substance-related and/or behavioral) have much
March 13, 2021
