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Change: Too Close to See Your Progress

Have you ever made a big change in your life, but noticed that those around you don’t seem to have noticed?

November 6, 2007

Jon Bon Jovi: Fatherhood and Work-Life Balance

Do you think you know what it’s like to be a rock star dad? You’ve read over the years of the trials and tribulations of some of the world’s most popular icons. You’re sick and tired of hearing about their collective demise, yet feel compassion for those living the Sex/Drugs/Rock ‘n Roll lifestyle because of the insurmountable odds they face in trying to triumph over the challenges of that life and culture.

There have been troubles with the law, divorces, stints in rehabs, 12-Step meetings, illnesses, and even tragic deaths.

If you’ve heard it all before, and and just know where things always seen to lead, why do you want to know about Jon Bon Jovi’s life? Because he’s much like you and me.

October 30, 2007

Your Beliefs and Values: Compassion is a Verb

I love the saying that love is a verb. I believe it’s true, first of all, and I think there’s something very powerful about a phrase that almost everyone seems to recognize or remember hearing.
Lately I’ve been thinking about compassion, and I wondered if it could be a verb.

October 16, 2007

New Perspective: How About A New Pair of Glasses for Everyone!

If you wear glasses or contacts, or if you’ve ever seen someone put on a new pair of glasses, you understand that when you don new glasses, the world looks fresh and new. You notice things you’ve never seen before, and even though you may see flaws like dirty windows or cracks in the sidewalk, you are so excited just to see everything that you don’t even notice these imperfections.

Putting on new glasses gives you an automatic positive outlook. You may not have ever thought about it like that, but isn’t it true? Don’t you feel better about everything, all the time, for quite a while after putting on new glasses?

October 5, 2007

When You Discount Yourself, You Discount Me

You’ve probably met someone like this. You’re in a class, for example, and get an A on a very hard class. The smartest person in the class, who happens to be someone you really can’t stand, says, “Well, it wasn’t all that hard a test. I wouldn’t have been able to do so well on it if it had really been hard.” This person is not being egotistical. She really believes that she couldn’t have done well on the test unless it were an easy test. She is genuinely discounting her skills and knowledge.

But she’s also discounting your skill and ability.

October 4, 2007

Focus on Change: Girlfriend Cashes $100,000 Check from Cheating Boyfriend

This from the New York Post:

“A hard-partying Wall Street trader and his ex-girlfriend are in court over an allegedly broken $100,000 promise to keep on the straight and narrow.”

According to disgruntled, but wealthier, girlfriend Elisa Kwon, her boyfriend offered more than a promise not to commit moral turpitude (depravity). Greg Calvino handed Kwon a check for $100,000 and instructed her to cash it is he used drugs, stayed out late, and/or patronized strippers or prostitutes.

What were these two thinking?

October 3, 2007

What Are You Complaining About?

People often tell us “don’t complain, you’re lucky,”or say, in a derogatory tone, “What you are complaining about?”

Obviously, we’re complaining because things are not the way we want them to be. I think it’s important to pay attention to what we’re complaining about, and why, because what we’re complaining about tells us more about who we are, what we want and what we need to do than almost anything else in our lives.

September 25, 2007

A Daily Reminder for Us All: We Are Products of Our Choices

We all make choices, every day. Millions of choices, probably, every week, if you count things like which shoe to put on first and whether to drink water or cola.

Choice, after choice, after choice.

They add up and become who we are. And who we are influences new choices, which contribute to who we will be in the future, which influences new choices…

September 20, 2007

You Can’t Get There from Here – Why Not?

If you’ve ever been told, “You can’t get there from here,” you may have thought that was a ridiculous thing to say. Of course you can. You can get anywhere from anywhere.

In the physical world.

But in the world of the mind, not so much sometimes. In seeking balance, happiness, and fulfillment, for instance, we often can’t go from the 80-hour work week to a reasonable, sane and balanced life, because those two worlds don’t exist on the same plane. We have to start making smaller changes, cutting back and doing more balanced, fulfilling, real things.

September 18, 2007

My Guest Appearance on ‘Money Sense’ Radio Show

I’ll be Karen Ellenbecker’s guest on her weekly educational non-traditional investment radio program titled Money Sense.

My guest spot on Money Sense can be heard in the greater Milwaukee metro area this Sunday, September 16th, from 12:00 Noon to 1:00 PM CST.

Listen live via the Web at: (10:00 AM PST, 11:00 AM MST, 12:00 Noon CST, 1:00 PM EST)

September 14, 2007

Stress – Avoid It, Reduce It, Manage It, or … Redefine It?

I hear people talk about “avoiding stress,” and I wonder if they know what they really mean by that. I think what they mean is that they want to cut down on the negative stressors and the negative energy in their lives, increase the positive energy, and live a calmer, more peaceful life.

But what they want is not to “avoid stress.” What they want, really, is to react less to negative stressors and have a more positive response to their lives. The want to experience no distress.

Avoiding stress is not a practical solution, really, because stress is not something that is.

September 13, 2007

I Want To Change – RIGHT NOW!

If you’re awake and aware in the modern world, you’re probably trying to change your life and your circumstances. That’s a luxury we have in our society. We have time to try to change ourselves as people, because we’re not spending all our time just trying to have enough food to get through the day.

With that luxury of the ability to change our lives comes a responsibility to try to be the best person you can be. I do believe that trying to improve ourselves is a responsibility, and that each of us has a duty to try to become our best.

September 10, 2007

Imperfection is Inevitable, But Pain is Optional – Temporarily Settling for Second Best

We often hear people say, “Don’t settle for second best.” But if we really look at our lives, I bet a lot of what we have around us is second best.

There are a lot of reasons we settle, and sometimes they’re good reasons, at least temporarily. The problem comes when we forget that this settling was temporary, and that we had something big planned for the future. We get stuck in our settlement, and can’t find our way out.

September 6, 2007

Productivity Tools? Time Management Techniques? First You Need a Strategy: Slow Down FAST

Ok … you have all your productivity tools in place. You have a rock-solid time management system. You have a seemingly-workable plan. But something isn’t quite right. You feel that, now, more than ever, you’re being stretched beyond your limits.

Maybe what’s missing isn’t all the tools and techniques. Maybe it’s your strategy.

September 4, 2007

Most Popular Class at Harvard University? Happiness!

Positive Psychology is the most popular class at Harvard University, having enrolled 855 students last semester.

Are you astounded?
What attracts so many students to study happiness?
Is such a class really needed in today’s world?

August 29, 2007

Good News About Happiness

Feeling the blues from all the rain we’ve had this past week? Otherwise looking for some cheery news? Looking for a good read this weekend?

There’s a great article in Men’s Health magazine that you must read.

August 25, 2007

Returning from Vacation? Some Great Advice for Everyday from Penelope Trunk

Imagine my surprise when I picked up a copy on My Midwest Magazine, the in-flight monthly of Midwest Airlines, to find an article titled Smooth Landing quoting the Brazen Careerist Penelope Trunk.

Why was I taken aback? I’m a Penelope Trunk reader, after all. I shouldn’t have been caught unaware, as she’s featured in many publications and sites. What struck me was the topic: Getting back to work after your vacation is over.

August 23, 2007

Getting to Know Yourself: Self-Assessment and Reflection

Most people think they know themselves pretty well, but how well do you really know yourself? Do you know exactly how you feel about certain things and why, or do you tend to judge how you feel by how you think you should feel? Are you comfortable with your feelings and the “inner you,” or is that uncomfortable?

Getting to know yourself may be a little different from getting to know the new neighbor or that attractive co-worker in your building, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be harder to really get acquainted with you.

August 21, 2007

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DAVID B. BOHL

Relinquishee, Adoptee, MPE
Author, Speaker.