In our society we have the luxury of trying to change our situations, whereas in other societies they have to worry about whether or not they will survive with enough food, and with the luxury of change comes the responsibility of living our best life possible. This responsibility, the luxury for change and best life possibilities, is not only to us but also to the other people involved in our lives. When we figure out that we want to change, many people make the mistake that those changes have to take place immediately and everyone needs to notice the new and improved person you have become. Changing can be agonizingly slow and hard-noticed, but the best thing about change is that we can always work toward more.If you’re awake and aware in the modern world, you’re probably trying to change your life and your circumstances. That’s a luxury we have in our society. We have time to try to change ourselves as people, because we’re not spending all our time just trying to have enough food to get through the day.
With that luxury of the ability to change our lives comes a responsibility to try to be the best person you can be. I do believe that trying to improve ourselves is a responsibility, and that each of us has a duty to try to become our best.
That responsibility is not only to ourselves, but also to the other people in our lives and the people who cross our lives even marginally. The better we are as people, the more we’ve developed our selves, the better we can be and the more we can help the people we interact with.
The problem with all this responsibility to change is that we often want to change NOW. We want to read a self-help book, close the cover, and be the new us right now.
I understand this desire. I’ve felt that way myself. I spent many years reading and experimenting and trying to find ‘THE Answer.”
I am constantly trying to be the best I can be, and when I start a new habit or drop an old one, I want everyone, including me, to see that change immediately and treat me as the new person I now am.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way. It’s a shame, too, because I’m sure we’d all be more likely to stick with our new habits if someone were noticing and making a big deal out of it.
There are two things to note about change:
The first is that it takes a long time to really effect a change. Doing something different one day is not really a change. It’s just one day. It’s the days, weeks, months of accumulated difference that create change.
The second thing about change is that hardly anyone notices at first. This is partly due to the first thing, that it’s not change if it’s only one day. But it’s also due to the fact that when people are around you all the time and see you changing gradually, it takes them a while to realize that there’s been a change. This can be frustrating. Sometimes you may have to actually say, “I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but for the last six months I’ve been…”
Yes, change can be painfully slow in appearing and in being noticed. But the thing about change is that we can always be working toward more, and changing constantly. Not change for change’s sake, but change for our own sake and that of the people we connect with. And for me, that’s worth the wait.
How you can change your life now:
- Find one thing you would like to change
- What would it take to change that area of your life?
- Take the first step today.
Thanks to Mystic Eye for including this post in the Mystic Eye Blog Carnival.