Relinquishee, Adoptee, MPE
Author, Speaker.

Turning the Pareto Princliple on Its Head

The Pareto Principle, or 80/20 rule, or the law of the vital few, or the principle of factor sparsity, states that 80% of the effects (results) come from 20% of the causes (effort).

Let’s throw out the Pareto Principle formula and focus our time on doing what’s truly important.

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Goals: Know When to Fold ‘Em

Sometimes in life you just have to give up. That may seem like a pretty absurd statement from a professional coach and lifestyle mentor, but I think it’s the most important advice I ever got, and the most important thing I can share with a client who’s facing something that is just not humanly possible.

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Make Your Own Choices

Do you make your own choices or are you constantly letting what other do dictates how you decide?  There is a post at Dumb Little

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Get Rid of Your Lack of Motivation Once and for All

Have you ever been in a job interview, and had the interviewer ask you if you were “self-motivated?” Have you ever wanted to answer with something like, “Who else, exactly, would be motivating me?”

Most of us do things every day like go to work, for ourselves or someone else, and do the work in front of us to do, whether we want to or not. Before that we got out of bed, got dressed, ate breakfast, took a shower, brushed our teeth.

All of those things take motivation, and if you’re not self-motivated, who’s motivating you?

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Get Rid of Black and White Thinking Once and for All

Very few things are simple, and the more we try to simplify our thinking into this/that, black/white, good/bad, the worse we’re going to make our lives, because life just isn’t like that. We’re not like that, no one is like that, and no one ever will be.

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Change: Doing One Thing Different

“If you always do what you always did, you’ll always get what you always got.” This is an old saw that never ceases to be true. Recovery programs use it a lot, and I like it because it is so very true.
Some people feel that if they’re going to make a change, they have to change everything.

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Getting Things Done – Take a Walk

Have you ever found yourself sitting at your desk, maybe first thing in the morning or right after lunch, and just not feeling functional? Many people call this “can’t get motivated,” but I really think of it as not being able to function correctly. My brain won’t go into gear, I can’t get started on anything, and when I do get started, I can’t keep going.

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Your Life in Balance – Review

“Your Life in Balance” is an excellent e-book written by David Bohl from Slow Down Fast. It is very well thought-out and written and I recommend it to anyone who wants to make the most out of their life.

I have had the pleasure of reading and now writing a review of David Bohl’s insightful ebook …

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Living Around Principles vs. Living In Integrity

After I titled this post “Living Around Principles,” it occurred to me that might sound like I mean living by getting around your principles, shoving them aside and living the life you’d be leading if you didn’t have any principles.

Uh, no. I left the title alone because I wanted to go ahead and bring up that idea, and then talk about why it doesn’t work and what I really meant.

Getting around your principles will not create the kind of life you want.

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Experiencing Life: I’m a Rubbernecker

Have you ever driven past an accident scene and craned your neck to see what happened? In life, I’m a rubbernecker. I want to know and do everything. I want to be as informed and active in life as possible.

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Mastering the Art of Living: Happiness, Success, and Fulfillment

I have been giving some thought to what it means to be a master of life. I think “mastering” life breaks down into four areas, and I want to give some attention to each of these areas. I hope that people will think and talk about these ideas. We can all benefit from discussing what it takes to live the life we want, and these are some areas I think are really important.

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Could a Wellness Program Keep Your Company Healthy?

One of the problems with talking about “health care” is that most people think of it only as a way of treating sick people. Health insurance and prescription plans are indispensable, of course, but have you thought about helping your employees stay well, to cut down on health problems in the future? This is not only good for your bottom line, but it’s good for your employees and your relationship with them. ‘Wellness plan’ is a broad term, but here are some opportunities you might explore:

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