Relinquishee, Adoptee, MPE
Author, Speaker.

Can We Get Better at Being Happy?

I don’t know how many articles I read on the subject of happiness last week, but, if I had to venture a guess, I’d say it was 30 or 40. The way I’d sum up the articles is, “The good news about happiness is that it seems to be a skill we can acquire and develop.”

The bad news is that most of us are not as happy as we could be.

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Are You Living Consciously?

Most of live our whole lives, to some extent, in this half-waking, half-conscious way. More…We know what we’re doing, but we don’t think about it. We don’t stop to consider whether this is the right job for us, whether this friend is dragging us down, whether we need to spend more time on what we really love and enjoy.

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You Don’t Have to Yell to be Heard

Have you ever heard someone say, “You’re not hearing me?” They’re not accusing you of not listening. Presumably you are not only listening but responding to what they’re saying. The accusation is that you are not adequately processing and understanding those words and the emotions and situations underlying them.

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Small Business Trends Column – Who Else (Besides a Majority of Business Professionals) Wants Work Life Balance in 2008?

A nationwide survey sheds some light as to what people think will help them achieve their business goals in 2008. What made the top of the list? Achieving a work-life balance!

This should come to no surprise to many of you reading this. It seems we are all working longer hours and spending more time trying to keep up with technology rather than using it to help us achieve productivity gains. We’ve become victims of our own success; often times forgetting about those people we share a house with — our family.

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Conflicting Desires: Knowing That We Have Enough vs. Always Wanting to Better Ourselves

From a very early age most of us are taught that we should always work towards bettering ourselves – through education, through our careers and through our family. For many people, the drive to succeed is part of who they are and there is no doubt about it, that trait can be very beneficial to them throughout their lives. Yet, at some point in our lives many of us seem to wander off the path of leading a successful, fulfilled life and fall into the trap of always wanting to do more, earn more, or get more. We lose track of those life goals we have set for ourselves and instead we get caught up in the mind trap of “the more I have, the better I am!”

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Build a Legacy You Can Be Proud Of

Do you have a real desire for your “fifteen minutes of fame?” Most people would answer this question yes, without thinking about it. Of course we want fame.

But do you really want fame, or do you want a legacy? They’re not exactly the same thing.

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Action or Inaction: Which Will You Regret More?

How many times have you heard someone saying, “I sure wish I would have…” or “If only I had taken the chance and…”. Our lives are full of decisions. And a decision we make every day is whether or not to do certain tasks. The question is which will you regret doing more – an action that you took, or an action that you didn’t take? For most us, we end up regretting the actions we didn’t take far more than we regret those that we did.

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Now You Can Have Quality, Not Quantity

We’re living our lives the “right way” – upholding our civic duties, serving as the model employee, being the attentive husband or wife, family member, friend. And yet, we’re biting off more than we can chew – and what we end up with is quantity, not quality, in all of our undertakings.

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A Better Life: Are You Willing To Do What It Takes To Achieve It?

We all dream of having a better life – finding a meaning in our life and pursuing our passions and goals. For some of us a better life means advancing our careers, for others it may be a path of personal discovery that leads to a better life. For others it could mean returning to school to get a degree so they can get the job they always wanted and provide for their families. A better life is achievable by anyone who wants to take the time and effort to do what it takes to attain it. A lot of people sit around talking about having a better life, but how many people are willing to put forth the effort required to actually achieve it?

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Sadness Isn’t All Bad: Dealing with Loss

I think that as a culture we tend to try too hard to avoid sadness at all costs, and I think that’s a very serious mistake. I have seen people bury parents and then bury all the feelings associated with the death, all the feelings of loss, all the grief. This is not a good thing. Sure, we can get right back to work. Sure, we don’t hurt.

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Time Management: Focus and Getting Results

Emphasize focus and results in time management. This is an approach I can really identify with. It’s not about how much you get done in a particular block of time. It’s about getting the results you need from that time.

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Completing My Life – One Day at a Time

You see, some time ago, while reflecting on the regrets hat I had accumulated over my forty-some years on this earth, I decided that uppermost in my mind was the fact that I hadn’t always made the time, and put forth the effort, to articulate to people in my life the things I want them to hear and know. This meant that my life, to me, was incomplete.

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