If you’ve made a trip to the bookstore or library lately, you’ve probably noticed how incredibly many self-help books there are on the shelves. But I’m a little concerned that some people seem to always be reading the latest self-help book and saying things like, “This is the book for me. This is what I’m going to do to change my life.”
No matter who you are, where you’ve been or where you’re headed, there is always room
for change – a new perspective and a new plan to define what’s most important to you.
Remember – the goal here is to know that a cookie-cutter prescription for success simply doesn’t exist in today’s world. To know that it’s ultimately up to you to make the plan.
It takes hard work and perseverance to go from overbooked and distracted, to productive and effective. We must first learn to overcome obstacles – old ways of thinking, defeatist patterns of behavior, fears and so forth. But through patient persistence and gentle guidance, people are able to discover their own unique ability to define and create ideal lives for themselves, against all odds and despite what everyone else is saying.
Let’s assume you had five minutes to give a speech. You would receive a very large sum of money if you gave a speech that the judges considered “passionate.” You choose the topic, you write the speech. You give a passionate speech, you get the money.
What would you talk about? More importantly, would what you talk about in that speech be what you’re truly passionate about, or would you try to fudge and make people think you were really excited about something you think is “important,” because you think that’s what they want to hear?
I’m a relatively happy guy, but sometimes I can get pretty out of sorts. Usually that is related to something I’ve been meaning to do, or always wanted to do. Something, of course, that remains on my “to do” list, and never quite makes it to my did list.
Many people who appear successful and together on the outside feel dissatisfied and disillusioned on the inside. This is because even though our life and careers are humming along at a breakneck speed, we frequently have no idea what direction we’re traveling in – or for that matter, why we ever agreed to go along for the ride.
Most of live our whole lives, to some extent, in this half-waking, half-conscious way. More…We know what we’re doing, but we don’t think about it. We don’t stop to consider whether this is the right job for us, whether this friend is dragging us down, whether we need to spend more time on what we really love and enjoy.
Have you ever heard someone say, “You’re not hearing me?” They’re not accusing you of not listening. Presumably you are not only listening but responding to what they’re saying. The accusation is that you are not adequately processing and understanding those words and the emotions and situations underlying them.