Relinquishee, Adoptee, MPE
Author, Speaker.

Happiness: It’s What One Emphasizes That Counts

One of my favorite quotes is Carlos Castaneda’s:

“The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same.”

I love this quote because it reminds me of how hard I used to work, just because I believed that working that hard would make me happy. It didn’t, and I think that if work was going to make me happy, eighty to one hundred hours a week should have done it.

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Awareness: How You Live is Who You Are

I’m always amazed at what people say about themselves sometimes, and how that really contrasts with what they do. What’s the quote? Something about what you do speaks so loudly I cannot hear what you say.

That sentiment means so much to me, because I know that in spite of wanting to be generous, patient, compassionate, and thoughtful, I am often selfish, impatient, intolerant and closed-minded.

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Get Rid of Your Lack of Motivation Once and for All

Have you ever been in a job interview, and had the interviewer ask you if you were “self-motivated?” Have you ever wanted to answer with something like, “Who else, exactly, would be motivating me?”

Most of us do things every day like go to work, for ourselves or someone else, and do the work in front of us to do, whether we want to or not. Before that we got out of bed, got dressed, ate breakfast, took a shower, brushed our teeth.

All of those things take motivation, and if you’re not self-motivated, who’s motivating you?

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Are ‘Smart’ and ‘Spiritual’ Mutually Exclusive?

There sometimes seems to be a backlash in our culture against people who value their spiritual lives and try to improve their spiritual state. In effect, the idea seems to be that smart people aren’t spiritual; that people who are spiritual are somehow stupid enough to be “gulled” into believing something that obviously can’t be true. I really have a problem with this outlook for four reasons:

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How to Live a Sweet Life

Sweet Life:

In Harmony. Balanced. Mental and emotional stability and serenity.

Free of discord. No contradictions. No inconsistencies between the beliefs and values one holds and one’s actions.

Want to live a sweet life? Find out exactly how to do it in my post

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Fitter, Happier, More Productive

Where we once felt purposeful, focused, and fueled with passion… these days, we’re apt to be idealistic but scattered, connected but alone. Our lives are brimming over, and yet we’re empty inside.

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6 Ways for Effecting Change in Your Life

We all deal with change, well or poorly, every day. The challenge for most of is not so much that we have change to deal with, but how well we manage it. Managing change well means less stress, less work, and more time to feel content, joyful, and fulfilled.

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