Beat Procrastination by Getting Going
From my article Beating Procrastination is Easy – Once You Get Moving at Dumb Little Man: “One of the biggest difficulties for most people to
April 28, 2008
What to Do if You Screw Up
We all make mistakes; it’s a part of being human and fallible. But if you’re like most people, you feel terrible whenever it happens. The
April 3, 2008
How to Reveal Your Inner Superhero
From my post Revealing Your Inner Super Hero at Dumb Little Man: “Everyone wants to be strong, intelligent, confident, and incredibly adept at everything we
March 31, 2008
Flowing With Change
Change can be tough to deal with. Humans evolved with a natural dislike of change, since change usually involves being at a disadvantage until the
March 24, 2008
Letting Go of Negative Thinking and Fear
I know a few people for whom everything has to be a problem. If they get a promotion, they’re worried about whether they can do the work. They’ll probably end up getting fired, they say. They shouldn’t have taken the promotion.
February 28, 2008
From Workaholic to Achievement Junkie to Husband, Father, and Friend
Read my post over at IWillChangeYourLife.com, titled changing habits: from workaholic to achievement junkie to husband, father and friend.
February 6, 2008
Personal Development: Can We Grow in Troubled Economic Times?
Lately the news has been full of negative things about mortgage issues, a weak economy and rising energy prices. Is there a way we can
February 5, 2008
The Most Frightening Thing I Ever Did
I’ve been frightened in my life. We all have. But you know the most frightening thing I ever did?
It was giving up my job as a financial trader, working eighty to a hundred hours a week.
January 2, 2008
Sadness Isn’t All Bad: Dealing with Loss
I think that as a culture we tend to try too hard to avoid sadness at all costs, and I think that’s a very serious mistake. I have seen people bury parents and then bury all the feelings associated with the death, all the feelings of loss, all the grief. This is not a good thing. Sure, we can get right back to work. Sure, we don’t hurt.
December 27, 2007
Have YOU Made Your New Year’s Resolutions?
New Year’s Reolutions: many of us make them, and many of us fail to complete them?
Why is this? What can we do to enhance our chances of affecting the change we desire?
December 23, 2007
Unlearning Helplessness: Take Charge of Your Life
I think we all have a touch of this learned helplessness, in some areas of our lives, and I also think we can overcome this learned helplessness in three very simple steps.
November 12, 2007
Success: It’s All in the Follow Through
A friend of mine has great ideas, but for many years didn’t have much success with those ideas. People were always saying, “I don’t see how your ideas don’t work out. You have such great ideas.”
My friend’s response was always, “Ideas have never been my problem.”
My friend was not too great at following through. He had good intentions, he tried hard, but somehow once the excitement of a new project wore off, he couldn’t seem to keep going.
Once my friend mastered follow-through, his life took off in directions he could never have imagined.
November 9, 2007
When You Discount Yourself, You Discount Me
You’ve probably met someone like this. You’re in a class, for example, and get an A on a very hard class. The smartest person in the class, who happens to be someone you really can’t stand, says, “Well, it wasn’t all that hard a test. I wouldn’t have been able to do so well on it if it had really been hard.” This person is not being egotistical. She really believes that she couldn’t have done well on the test unless it were an easy test. She is genuinely discounting her skills and knowledge.
But she’s also discounting your skill and ability.
October 4, 2007
Stress – Avoid It, Reduce It, Manage It, or … Redefine It?
I hear people talk about “avoiding stress,” and I wonder if they know what they really mean by that. I think what they mean is that they want to cut down on the negative stressors and the negative energy in their lives, increase the positive energy, and live a calmer, more peaceful life.
But what they want is not to “avoid stress.” What they want, really, is to react less to negative stressors and have a more positive response to their lives. The want to experience no distress.
Avoiding stress is not a practical solution, really, because stress is not something that is.
September 13, 2007
Imperfection is Inevitable, But Pain is Optional – Temporarily Settling for Second Best
We often hear people say, “Don’t settle for second best.” But if we really look at our lives, I bet a lot of what we have around us is second best.
There are a lot of reasons we settle, and sometimes they’re good reasons, at least temporarily. The problem comes when we forget that this settling was temporary, and that we had something big planned for the future. We get stuck in our settlement, and can’t find our way out.
September 6, 2007
Productivity Tools? Time Management Techniques? First You Need a Strategy: Slow Down FAST
Ok … you have all your productivity tools in place. You have a rock-solid time management system. You have a seemingly-workable plan. But something isn’t quite right. You feel that, now, more than ever, you’re being stretched beyond your limits.
Maybe what’s missing isn’t all the tools and techniques. Maybe it’s your strategy.
September 4, 2007
Good News About Happiness
Feeling the blues from all the rain we’ve had this past week? Otherwise looking for some cheery news? Looking for a good read this weekend?
There’s a great article in Men’s Health magazine that you must read.
August 25, 2007
Free Teleseminar Reveals Secrets to a More Fulfilling, Joyful and Stress-Free Life
I will present present Slow Down FAST – 5 Secrets to Success: How to Begin Living YOUR Life YOUR Way in a groundbreaking FREE teleseminar event on Tuesday evening, September 11th.
According to a recent study of 1,148 adults nearly two thirds of parents say they don’t spend enough time with their children, while half say they must make their job a top priority – even if it affects their family life.
It doesn’t have to be that way.
August 20, 2007
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