From David B. Bohl, Independent Recovery Management Consultant
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Tip #6: Don’t deal in lies.
Chances are, if you’re like most of us, you probably consider yourself an honest person. And if given the choice, you’d prefer to be told the truth… right?
But think about the little white lies you tell from time to time. The tiny fibs you sprinkle into your conversations just to appease people. (We all do it.)
Today’s Tip for Finding Health and Happiness has to do with honesty. Sure, some things are best unsaid, or said in a kinder way. And yes, they call it “brutal” honesty because very often, the truth hurts.
But if we end up feeling unsatisfied, out of touch, and unable to relate to anyone else…
Could it be because the people who are *close* to us don’t have the foggiest idea who we are or what we think?
Is it worth slowly becoming LESS of ourselves because we’re so busy bending over backwards telling little fibs and indulging other people’s fantasies?
Think about the last person you told a “harmless” little white lie to. Maybe it was…
…your partner, asking if it looked like s/he might have gained a few pounds
…your colleague, asking your opinion of his new idea to increase productivity
…your brother, wondering what you thought of the woman he was dating
…your coworker, asking if you had time to take on “just one more project” this week
Maybe, like most of us, you’re trying to save yourself headaches and discomfort later… telling people what they want to hear.
But what happens when…
….your partner gains “just a few more pounds…” and then a few more. And not only does he or she begin to look less attractive, but the weight is negatively impacting his or her health and vitality. And STILL you say nothing, but you can see that confidence waning and your sex life is taking a turn for the worst. And your now overweight and unhappy partner laughs wanly and says, “Do you still find me attractive?” and all you can do is kiss him or her on the head and lie through your teeth…
…your colleague implements the new plan, which you never really thought would work in the first place. And you were right, the new system fails miserably. Your department experiences major setbacks and loss of profit. And the whole time, all you can think of is “If I had only said something… but now it’s too late…”
…you endure a few agonizing dinner parties with your brother and his poor choice in partners… and still you don’t approve of the way she behaves or treats him. But still you just play along as though everything is fine. And then one fine day your brother announces that he’s engaged…
… your coworker monopolizes all of your time, which you didn’t have to spare but you stay late and suffer through the extra work. And then a month later, same thing… getting bombed with a rush job at the last minute. But this time you say “Sorry, I can’t fit this in at such short notice…” Now, not only do you never receive proper credit for coming through the first time… but it’s just assumed that you’ll put up with unreasonable requests…
What do you think would happen if, in the above situations, you’d found a gentle yet firm way to communicate what you honestly thought and felt about things from the get-go?
Being honest does not mean being rude or unkind. It simply means being able to express and assert yourself without fear of rejection or conflict.
Doesn’t it feel so much better to just speak your mind, get it off your chest and be heard and understood?
When we are true to ourselves, we attract more of what we want out of life and less of what we don’t.
When we practice honesty in our lives, we move closer to true happiness and personal satisfaction.
Slow Down… Fast.
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