Build a Legacy You Can Be Proud Of

Do you have a real desire for your “fifteen minutes of fame?” Most people would answer this question yes, without thinking about it. Of course we want fame.

But do you really want fame, or do you want a legacy? They’re not exactly the same thing.

A Better Life: Are You Willing To Do What It Takes To Achieve It?

We all dream of having a better life – finding a meaning in our life and pursuing our passions and goals. For some of us a better life means advancing our careers, for others it may be a path of personal discovery that leads to a better life. For others it could mean returning to school to get a degree so they can get the job they always wanted and provide for their families. A better life is achievable by anyone who wants to take the time and effort to do what it takes to attain it. A lot of people sit around talking about having a better life, but how many people are willing to put forth the effort required to actually achieve it?

Being Who You Are and Who You Want to Be

A wonderful woman I’m familiar with is the absolute essence of New York Society – except that she has spent her entire life living in the South.

But I also find it interesting that someone who so clearly loves both New York, with its theatre scene, and Arkansas, where she has lived most of her life excluding graduate school, has found a balance between the two.

A Messy Desk is the Sign of a Messy Desk

I was amused recently to see that one of the major office supply stores now carries not only filing supplies but also, believe it or not, “piling” supplies. These consist mainly of plastic envelopes and folders where you can put everything regarding one project together and leave them on your desk. I haven’t talked to anyone who uses them, but I find it interesting that someone is finally noticing that we don’t always even want to keep our desks clear.

Is Going Solo a Career Option for You?

Just about everyone, at some point in their lives, dreams of starting their own business, getting “out of the rat race,” “being the boss.”

If you’re thinking about going solo, either as a freelancer or consultant, or as a business owner in some other type of business, that’s great! I really believe there is a lot to be said for owning your own business and running your own show.

However, I would caution you that things are not always black and white.

Focus on Change: Girlfriend Cashes $100,000 Check from Cheating Boyfriend

This from the New York Post:

“A hard-partying Wall Street trader and his ex-girlfriend are in court over an allegedly broken $100,000 promise to keep on the straight and narrow.”

According to disgruntled, but wealthier, girlfriend Elisa Kwon, her boyfriend offered more than a promise not to commit moral turpitude (depravity). Greg Calvino handed Kwon a check for $100,000 and instructed her to cash it is he used drugs, stayed out late, and/or patronized strippers or prostitutes.

What were these two thinking?

Life Coaches Blog Column: The Science of Happiness — Writing Your Own Formula for Happiness

The term “science of happiness” implies there is a formula and that you can follow a scientific method of discovery to determine what makes you happy. The formula for “happy” for each of us is different because there are so many factors that contribute to individual happiness.

Luck: Helping Each Other and Paying it Forward

An ancient Greek named Menander said, “If we always helped each other, no one would need luck.” Actually, he probably wasn’t all that ancient when he said that, but he was a Greek, and he did live a very, very long time ago, and he was a very wise man.

I want to make a digression on luck. Some people think that other people are “really lucky” because they are able to achieve things they want to accomplish, and reach their dreams. The people considered lucky would probably respond that a lot of hard work went into that luck. That’s very true, but I think that the idea of helping each other also comes into play.

What Are You Complaining About?

People often tell us “don’t complain, you’re lucky,”or say, in a derogatory tone, “What you are complaining about?”

Obviously, we’re complaining because things are not the way we want them to be. I think it’s important to pay attention to what we’re complaining about, and why, because what we’re complaining about tells us more about who we are, what we want and what we need to do than almost anything else in our lives.

Take a Vacation – Whether You Think You Need It or Not

One of the overriding characteristics I’ve noticed in stressed-out, overworked, Type-A personalities is that they tend not to take time off. Trust me – I speak from personal experience!

If they do take vacations, it’s a “working vacation,” and it’s seldom for more than a few days.

Recently The New Yorker ran a cartoon of two people on a beach.

Tools for Productivity: Is Keeping a Schedule Becoming Old School?

Some would have you believe that maintaining a calendar is becoming a thing of the past. They think that this strategy allows increased and enhanced productivity. Why? Because they feel that it is invigorating and empowering not to be tied to any set agenda and timetable.

If you’ve found that you need to keep a schedule, and if you’re like me – someone who continuously assesses, monitors, modifies, and adapts my approach and strategies, please read on.

You Can’t Get There from Here – Why Not?

If you’ve ever been told, “You can’t get there from here,” you may have thought that was a ridiculous thing to say. Of course you can. You can get anywhere from anywhere.

In the physical world.

But in the world of the mind, not so much sometimes. In seeking balance, happiness, and fulfillment, for instance, we often can’t go from the 80-hour work week to a reasonable, sane and balanced life, because those two worlds don’t exist on the same plane. We have to start making smaller changes, cutting back and doing more balanced, fulfilling, real things.

Time Management: Take Pleasure in Puttering – Make a Date for Idle Time in Your Life

The Christian Science Monitor recently ran an essay on the value of puttering.

The thrust of the article was that we don’t putter much anymore. We spend too much time “getting things done.”

Accomplishment is great, but what if we all just stayed at home this Saturday and puttered?

Use Diagonal Thinking to Resolve Challenges and Obstacles in Your Life

If you’re used to thinking in straight lines (linear thinking), as in having your thoughts and mind go from point A to point B, you may get frustrated when you try to think “in curves,” or think “fuzzy” and expand your thoughts to cover areas that don’t really fit. If you do, you’ve engaged in what’s commonly known as thinking inside the box.

Or maybe you’re a lateral thinker. If you are, the thought process you engage in is one whereby you endeavor to resolve dilemmas by using unconventional methods to generate unique concepts, perceptions, and ideas. You’d then be engaging in outside-of-the-box thinking.

A different approach to this is to try thinking diagonally.

A Virtual Day, Place, and Time – Re-examining My Perceptions of Reality

I’d like to share with you a photo of my family. It was taken this past June by an excellent photographer by the name of Jim Schoonover at Carroll Studios.

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Clockwise from the left you’ll see my son Andrew, my daughter Adrienne, my wife Vicki, me, and our two black Labradors Kobe and Bear.

To me, it’s a work of art – digital art. Not only was the picture taken on a digital camera, but it was also enhanced and altered on a computer. In the truest sense of the word, this photograph is an original creation.

I Want To Change – RIGHT NOW!

If you’re awake and aware in the modern world, you’re probably trying to change your life and your circumstances. That’s a luxury we have in our society. We have time to try to change ourselves as people, because we’re not spending all our time just trying to have enough food to get through the day.

With that luxury of the ability to change our lives comes a responsibility to try to be the best person you can be. I do believe that trying to improve ourselves is a responsibility, and that each of us has a duty to try to become our best.

Life Coaches Blog Column: The Art of Predicting Your Own Lasting Happiness

Can the achievement of happiness be predicted in any meaningful sense? Simply put, yes it can. If you have close (safe, nurturing, comforting) personal relationships and fulfilling work to do, and you know yourself and what you are about, you can predict that you will have enough good things in your life to bring you lasting happiness. No life is without conflict, pain or even moments of fear, but overall happiness counter-balances all the trials and challenges life hands you. If you have those things working in your life that generate a bone-deep level of happiness you have an automatic cushion against getting bounced on your ear by the unexpected.

Gut Check: Don’t Analyze This Question (and Don’t Blink): Is Intuition Underrated?

Impossible to define, yet something that each and every one of us experiences, gut feelings are unique, personal experiences that we’ve been taught to be very wary of, especially in this day and age of instant, easily-accessible information.

But what exactly comprises a gut feeling?